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Aftermath of potty training – day & night

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So, it’s been a little over two weeks since we’ve done the 3 day potty training.  Going in I thought it would work, but I still had my reservations that my child wouldn’t catch on and kept our diapers, just in case.  I didn’t have the right attitude completely.  Hubby on the other hand probably wouldn’t have thought about potty training until our son was closer to 3 years old.  He wasn’t opposed, but he thought it might be a bit too soon.

Our son was 25.5 months old when I got around to potty training him, and it was a SUCCESS.  Honestly I do think I could have done it sooner, I just didn’t think about it until after the holidays.  A friend gifted us the e-book “3 day potty training”.  Honestly it wasn’t a whole lot different than what you read on blogs or on babycenter.com.

My previous post explains what I had planned out for this process, and that was before I read the e-book.  I don’t want tell how the book is different, because then you won’t buy your own copy, but I will share what I had planned to do, but didn’t.

Potty training is a learning process not only for the child, but I had to learn how C1 communicates to me.  Honestly I didn’t understand at first and this created more accidents.  C1 is slightly behind in his speech development and we have been working with a speech therapist.  With this speech training, we have C1 repeat words back to us, and like most kids he will only repeat back the last word you say.  So, when I would remind C1 to tell me if he needs to go potty, he would repeat back, “potty”.  I thought he was just repeating back words, but it turns out, that was his way of telling me he needed to go.  When I reminded him and he said nothing back, that was him saying he did not need to go.  It worked like this for two and a half days.  We would not get a spontaneous request to use the bathroom.  Even toward the end of the third day I didn’t realize that C1 was telling me he had to go potty.  A few weeks previous he learned to say our friends name “Bobby”, so i thought he was just saying the name.  Wise Hubby figured out that “bobby” and “potty” sounded that same coming from him.  So C1 knew he had to go potty, but we weren’t listening, he figured out to use sign language for potty, which he had learned a few months before from watching the “potty time” app.

The end of the third day we had to leave the house, Hubby needed a ride to the airport.  We left the house, not feeling confident that C1 was potty trained.  We decided, since we were out we, I, would go fabric shopping and out to dinner with a friend.  Once we got to the store I showed C1 where the potty was and reminded him to tell me if he needed to go. While at the store C1 told me without a reminder, that he needed to go potty, and then again at the restaurant.  I was so proud.  On the way home, something started to stink in the car.  I thought that we had a poo accident in the car.  We got home, and guess what.  No accident!    Again, so proud.  It was then that I was convinced that I had just potty trained C1 in 3 days. I knew we were never turning back to diapers.  Day 4 was a church day, where I’m not with him for 2 hours to remind him, and don’t know if he will tell another adult if he needs to go.  Usually if your kid has an accident, they will find you so you can take care of it.  Well I picked him up after the 2hours and his pants were wet.  I think he had  his accident close to the end of the 2 hours because I don’t think any of the adults watching the kids noticed that he had an accident.

For the first week of being potty trained, he had one or less accidents a day.  Some may not call that successful potty training, but I do.  But keep in mind, that we also did the night time training, and the one or less a day includes night time.  By week 2 of being potty trained he would say he needed to go potty, so we rushed him to the toilet and nothing would come out.  This would repeat 3 or 4 times before he would poop in his underwear.  I just think he had a hard time getting the poop out.  This happened only a few times. Between day one and day two of training, C1 didn’t poop for almost a full day.  Finally he told me he wanted a bath in the middle of the day, and as soon as he got in, he pooped, a big one.  I think the warm water helped him relax.  This was the first and only time he has went potty in the bath.

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We mostly followed the game plan except for a few things.

*We did not use the punch card for poops.  He only pooped a few times a day (which is normal), so we gave him a toy prize for going poop.

*We never put him in a pull-up.  We used underwear for naps and night from day 1.  I did have these pads from the hospital to put under him, so that if he did wet the bed, the sheets wouldn’t need changing.IMG_1927

*I learned quick that public restrooms are awkward for children.  This will be the only  removable potty seat I will buy.  I love it because it folds up flat to fit into my purse and I can use it on any toilet.  I should have gotten the cars one, but Diego was the cheapest, and C1 doesn’t seem to care.  Seat Found HERE.IMG_1924IMG_1922

Night training I would say has taken a little longer.  C1 still likes to have a drink before bed and it’s hard getting him off of that.  I go to bed a few hours after C1 does, so just before I go to bed, I wake him up and have him go potty, and then put him back in bed.  After two weeks of doing this, he has finally learned that it’s ok to get up to go potty.  Two weeks after starting potty training, he will now get up on his own, wake us up and ask to go potty, then usually go back to bed.  Sometimes he tries to prolong going to bed by saying he has to go potty, but all in all, I think he’s doing very well.  The only “accidents” we have now is when he’s sitting on the toilet and his aim is not down, if you get my drift.

Potty Training

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It’s been a while, and I’ve been pondering if and how I want to continue this blog.  While it would be good for me to put all sorts of things on here about my family, or really our son, so that grandparents and such could keep up with our lives.  I’ve also put this website on my business cards and tag labels, so I’ve thought about keeping it a craft type blog only.  I’d like to be one of the big craft bloggers out there, but really I don’t have enough to share something every day, I don’t create patterns; which is why people follow craft blogs, for the free patterns and I’m not really into taking that much time and effort into doing either of those two things.  So, for now, I’m just going to share about some things that have been on my mind lately, mostly about parenting in general. I should probably start with a general explanation of what I believe my parenting style is, but I’m not going to.  Maybe soon I’ll write that one.   I will always include pictures, because I mostly look at the pictures on blogs anyway, and decide to read anything based on the pictures.

Today I’d like to share my thoughts on potty training.  First, I will note, that my child is not potty trained yet, and I haven’t really tried to yet.

Months ago, maybe six or so months ago, I started talking to C1 about the potty.  We bought a special seat for out toilet that has a child size seat that is attached and is always there.  {like this one here}  Every now and again I would ask C1 if he wanted to use the potty.  About a month ago, I sat him on the toilet for about an hour and he happened to go pee in the toilet.  We celebrated, but I never pushed anything.

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I’m not exactly sure why so many parents are afraid of potty training their child.  Just like when I delivered C1, I was waiting for the Dr. to tell me when to push even though I could tell my body was ready.  I seem to be waiting for C1 to ask me to use the potty.  I’m totally ready to potty train him, and to have him out of diapers.  I’m not scared of the process, or the messes, I’m simply waiting for him, waiting for the age.  Initially I was hoping to have a second child by the time C1 turned 2, so I had hoped to potty train C1 between 18 and 24 months.  Hubby seems to think that kids potty train older and is a little resistant to do anything until closer to 3 years.  I seem to want to have C1 do things at a younger age than Hubby does.  Moving C1 out of his crib and into a bed is a similar story, but I’ll save that for another time.

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Since I had been thinking a ton about potty training, and C1 seems to understand how the whole thing works, he’s just not that interested or motivated to potty train.  I decided, it’s time.  We’re going to try the quick.  For C1, I think it will be better to do it as an all or nothing kind of thing instead of a gradual process.  So, two days ago, C1 and I went to the store and got our stock for potty training.  Here is what we got:

*toys, books, color books that he picked out (mostly from the dollar section, but some others that were more)

*stickers and a bag of small candies (m&m’s)

*undies; again, I let him pick them out so he would be excited about them.  He picked trains.

*flush able wipes

*pull-up

*chips, crackers and other salty snacks.

*more sippy cups (mostly because they were on clearance), but now we have plenty of cups, and he’s more excited to drink from a new cup.

*new DVD’s

*potty books

*potty success chart (I actually just printed this off at home from online)

*water proof mattress cover

*water proof pillow cover

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Here is my game plan.  I have cleared my schedule for 3 days so that I can focus on C1 and his potty needs.  The new DVD’s will be to help entertain us during the day, and also because I wanted new movies.  We’ll also have arts & crafts planned and games planned for us to do during the 3 days so I don’t go crazy being home bound for that long.  We will eat our meals as normal, but we’ll add the salty snacks in between.  We’ll have sippy cups all over the house so their is always a drink within reach.  The snacks and extra drinks are to help produce more potty to be had during the day.  During the 3 day period, C1 will be naked from the waist down, or all the way.  I may put underwear on him, so he gets use to the feeling and learns the difference between underwear and a diaper.

For every time C1 goes pee pee in the potty he will get a small prize; a sticker, a single candy.  We’ll put a sticker on his success chart for every time he goes pee pee.  The chart I chose has 60 spaces to fill, once all the spaces are filled, I’m thinking (hoping) C1 will be pretty well potty trained, our grand prize will be a trip to the zoo.  For now we will teach him to go pee pee sitting down.  POTTY CHART HERE

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For every time C1 goes poo poo in the potty he will get a sticker for his chart and one of the toys that he picked.  Again, the sticker chart has 60 spaces on it, so he can earn up to 2 stickers for each bathroom visit to work toward going to the zoo.  *As I write I’m still researching different training methods, and have found a fun punch card and may go with that route and change my system a little.  For each poo poo he makes, he’ll get a sticker and a punch.  In the beginning I’ll use the 6 punch card.  Once all 6 are punched, he’ll get a prize.  Once he get’s the hang of it more, we’ll move up to the 12 punch in order to get a prize.  POTTY CARD HERE
I love how creative other people can be, this is a great idea.

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During nap time and bed time we will be using the pull ups.  I’m not really that familiar with how dry he is when he wakes, so I’ll use these for sleep only and work on night training as I pay more attention to how wet things are when he wakes.  I understand that during this 3 day period I need more patience than normal.  I will make friends with my mop and my spot cleaner.  We mostly have hard wood floors, but where he plays the most usually has rugs.  During day 2 and day 3 we will venture outside to the park near our house for an hour.  Possibly two, one hour long trips to the park on day 3.  When we go to the park he will wear his underwear.  It’s February, so I don’t want to have nothing on under his pants.

I’ve learned from reading other blogs and websites to not ask about going potty, but to tell him it’s time to go potty. Or, rush him to the potty if he starts going on the floor.  When their is an accident, I won’t get upset; I will most likely say “oh, no.  pee pee goes in the potty”.  Then I will rush him to the bathroom where he can finish his business.   We will not be buying or using a portable potty, or be allowing him to go potty in the living room.  I understand why others might want to do this for the convenience.  However, I don’t want C1 to think that it’s ok to go to the bathroom any where else but the bathroom, on the toilet.

This is the game plan any way. My 3 day training is not planned for almost another week.  I tend to get impatient once I set my mind on something.  I also don’t want C1 to loose the excitement of the toys we just bought.  I wouldn’t be surprised if I started earlier than my chosen 3 day, and then just really pushed it when my 3 day came.

Field Museum

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When we went to the library, we got in line to get ourselves a library card. Lucky us, the people in front of us were returning the Field Museum pass; so I snatched it right us and we went to the museum right after nap time.

The public libraries have a great system here where they have one pass to each of the museums here in town, which you can check out and get free admission. With the closest library it’s rare to find the pass you want when you want, if at all. The passes are always checked out. So we got pretty lucky to get such a good pass right then.

When you walk into the Field Museum you have to go down a hall lined with pictures before you get to the ,aim part of the museum. When we got to the first picture C1 got super excited and we almost had to drag him down the hall to even get to the attractions. We stopped and played in the children’s play section for a bit. We had fun in the music room playing as loud as we could. Playing on the farm, picking corn.

We walked around and saw all the stuffed animals, the birds, jungle, ocean, all sorts of wild animals. These are both Interesting and freaky to me. I love to be able to see them up close and all, but I’m afraid of them as well, I fear they are going to come to life and get me.

We all had a good time and hope to give our kids this kind of learning experiences often. Thank you Chicago public library for providing us the free pass.

Little People Zoo

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C1 is a year and a half, and I’m not hearing him say any actual words. It’s said that by now he should have about 10 words. All of the other moms I talk to tell me not to worry about it, but I look forward to him talking.  I checked with my Dr. at his appointment and she, like me,would like to nip this in the bud before it gets worse. We had the speech therapist come over and do an evaluation.

She told me about some things I can do to help encourage speech. Some of them I have been doing, but some, not so much. Read out loud, talk about what I’m doing, play pretend; as well as some toys, such as noise making puzzles, or the peek a boo barn app.

I couldn’t find the puzzles at the target, so I searched for aother toy. We settled on the little people zoo talkers. A little more than I was planning on spending, but it is an investment in my children and should last him a few years of play.

We bought the zoo, the zoo truck, and one of each of the animals that they had. You put the animal on a special spot in the zoo and it tells you what animal it is and what sound it makes. C1 has been having a lot of fun With this toy.

Grandma has given us the little people airplane. I think I would love to collect the little people toys,this way all his toys are interchangeable. Another toy brand I support and will get as C1 grows is leap frog.

One and a half

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I’m not exactly sure why being a year and a half is such a big deal, when no other half birthday seems to be.  We decided to sort of make it a special day to celebrate C1 being alive for a year and a half.

We started by going out to what is known to have Chicago’s best Polish; Jim’s.

We each got a Polish and my, my, they were yummy.  Their fries were quite good as well.

This place is a hotdog stand in a building.  No dining, but there is a shelf along the wall for you to stand and eat.  Even though it was hot, I did feel quite Chicagan.

We then made our way over to the PetSmart to get C1 a fish.

This little guy had a blast looking at all the fishes.  We also go to see the parrots, the dragons, the rats, the guinea pigs and lots of dogs.

We decided on a blue and red beta fish.  We found this submarine on clearance, so I just had to get it.  That’s C1’s little finger.  He is in love with having a fish.  He helps me feed him every day and enjoys watching him.

Once we had our fish picked we went home and got our swim gear on and headed to the gym pool for family swim.

C1 loves the beach, so I thought he would have fun at the pool.  Not so much.  Daddy swam laps, and C1 clung to my neck as tight as he could for the whole hour.  If I loosened my hold on him, he would tighten up.  He had on a float vest, so I was trying to get him to play on his own, but he just would not let go one bit.  I do think he enjoyed watching everyone in the pool though.

 

Happy one and a half birthday buddy.  We had fun celebrating your life.  I’m so very glad that you are mine and that you are such a cute and happy boy.

Bike for the little man

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Every time we are near a bike c1 has to touch it and spin the pedals. With such interest in bikes I decided that we should get him one of his own. I searched Craigslist, asked around to friends and searched the web.

We went with the strider bike in orange from amazon. For some reason, orange was the cheapest color.

I was quite excited when it came in the mail, but not as excited as C1. I stared pulling everything out of the box and he was squealing. There was some assembly required, but I couldn’t get it put together. Not because it was hard, but because C1 was trying to ride it without a seat or wheels. I had to fight him off to get the thing ready for him to ride.

Once assembled he rode up the hallway; as slow as can be. I decided to take him and his new bike outside where he had more space, but he was screaming and crying at me, just trying to get it out the door.

I’m surprised he knows how the thing works. He has never ridden a bike, and he hops on like hes an old pro. I don’t think he is even sitting on the seat, but just walking with the bike between his legs. He goes super slow, because, well it’s hare to walk with a bike between your legs. He is so happy walking around with this thing and is in love.

I like this bike because it fits him at 18 months old, and will teach him balance for when he is ready for a bigger bike. I think these bikes are for 18 month to 4 years, so it should last him a while.

Nursery

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In our church children don’t go into the Nursery until they are 18 months old.  Well, both hubby and I serve in the primary (3-11 year olds), hubby plays the piano, and I teach a 3 year old class, sunbeams.  Because they needed us both, they let C1 go into nursery 4 weeks before his 18 month birthday.

I’m such a proud mama of her boy.  He goes right on in and doesn’t even look back.  I had to peek on him the first day a few times.  Not really a good idea, because once he saw me he came to the door, but he went back and played without a cry.  He mostly just watches the other kids to figure out how things work.  The leaders tell me he does great.  He eats nicely at snack time, plays well and doesn’t cry.

He loves it with all the toys, and all the friends.  Oh, it just warms my heart that he’s such a good boy.  I’m so proud of him.  Now if we could just get him to sit still during sacrament.

It also helps that he has such a great Dad.  Hubby can’t play the piano without C1 sitting right next to him wanting to play too.  We’re hoping he keeps up the interest in piano, so we can get him into lessons sooner than later.

He just loves his daddy so much.  Hubby is such a big help to me as well.  He knows when I’ve had a rough day and takes C1 and plays and cuddles, and he’s so good about singing and reading to him as well.  We love you Daddy and wish you a HAPPY FATHERS DAY!