C1 has sadly been sick 3 times in the past 4 months. Just a simple stuffy nose; which turns into a horrible sounding cough. This last sickness he didn’t have a fever, so that’s good. I feel bad when he’s sick and cuddle him a lot more than normal, especially when it comes to going to sleep. He cries and I hold him. See, when he cries it breaks my heart and I want to be there for him, and by holding him, it puts my heart back together and calms him down. Because of this though, C1 has gotten use to sleeping in my arms.
A couple nights ago, C1 kept waking up crying. We would hold him until he went back to sleep, except, when we went to put him down again, he would instantly wake up crying again. He needs his sleep, but so do we, we cannot hold him all night long. So, again, we instituted the ‘cry it out’ method of getting him to sleep when he needed to; without taking up all of our time. We decided that nap time is at 9am and 1pm and bed at 7pm (he wakes at 7am).
Day 1, we put C1 down for his nap at 9am. He cries, and cries, and cries and cries. 15 minutes in, it’s breaking my heart, and I can hardly stand to hear him cry, I want so bad to go rescue him so he can get the sleep that he needs. 30 minutes in I peek in on him (still crying) and just watch him; desperate to rescue him. 50 minutes after we put him down, he finally falls asleep. My heart is not only broken, but in pieces. My poor boy. That was hard, and I wasn’t looking forward to afternoon nap and doing that all over again.
1pm comes, we put him down for his nap. He starts crying. Ugh. My heart can’t handle him crying like this. I try to clean the house or something to distract myself from him. Luckily this time, he only cried for 30 minutes before falling asleep. It must be working, he’s figuring out that we will no longer rescue him and that he just needs to sleep.
Bed time comes 7pm (I’m out at a Women’s Conference); Hubby puts him down for bed. I’m glad I wasn’t home, I just love to cuddle my boy. Hubby said, it took him about 15 minutes to fall asleep. Sweet, our time is being cut in half each time! C1 did wake at 11pm; where hubby held him trying to feed him; but that didn’t work. I went in at midnight; lay him in his crib to feed him; he ate, cried for a bit and went back to sleep.
Day 2 nap time; 9am. I put him down and he cries. I pray it doesn’t take an hour or even half an hour like yesterday. He cries for 6 minutes and he falls asleep! YAHOO, it’s working. 1pm nap time again. We had a linger longer after church, so we got him down a few minutes late, but still it’s 1pm(ish). It took 15 min. for him to fall asleep. Not too bad. Bedtime on day 2; he’s been quite fussy between dinner and bedtime. He’s not eating very well, so I’m not sure what’s going on with him. Bedtime only took 5 minutes though.
One questions though. Every Sunday our church services start at 9am. What do I do? Do I keep him home for his nap and then go to church when he wakes up; arriving very late? Do I let him skip his morning nap every Sunday? Do I force him to sleep at church once we arrive? How do you handle nap time during church?
C1 has the funniest position to sleep in. He sleeps on his stomach. I know, NEVER let your child sleep on their stomach; but there is no way of preventing it. Before I even lay him down all the way he’s rolling over. I just accept it. He also like to be on his knees; which means his bum is up in the air.
Things to clue C1 in that it’s time for sleep:
*We try not to feed him right before going down; we don’t want to associate food with sleep
*we read him a book for cuddle time
*we sing him a song
*we lay him in his crib, and simply walk away
*when he wakes, we go get him right away
*we are excited that he’s awake and praise him for taking a good nap